 by Iyalawo Falomo and Iyalawo
Olufadeke
There is a basic
wisdom and logic to the universe. It is Oludumare's gift to us that He
constructed it in a way we could understand. Unlike the rest of His creations,
we have little instinct to survive. Our survival and prosperity depend,
in great measure, on our understanding our place and connection within
this universe. Ifa, and Orisa worship, are proven paths for understanding
these relationships.
Within the construct
of the universe we have all observed the profound differences between
male and female energy. Too often, this understanding has led to the faulty
conclusion that: the energies are, and should remain, inherently separate.
Wrong! The correct observation is that the continuation of almost all
life forms depend on these energies working together. Certainly there
are things that female energy does better than male energy. Equally certain,
there are things male energy can accomplish more effectively than female
energy. Yet, the ultimate truth is that there are a host of things that,
when each energy combines with the other, that can be addressed and accomplished
at a level impossible for either energy in its separate form. It is this
ultimate Truth that demands that women be initiated as Ifa priests. While
women cannot see Odu, they can perform all other functions of an Ifa priest.
And, when they work at this level, hand in hand with their male counterpart,
the accomplishments geometrically expand. They are not seeking to become
Babalawo. As is pointed out by Falomo in her writings below, they are
seeking and fulfilling their role of Iyalawo. And the combination of the
Mother Of The Secrets and the Father Of the Secrets completes a union
as basic and profound as the two halves of the calabash that represent
our universe!
At Ola Olu we teach
inclusion. We also recognize the inherent individuality of each initiate.
Becoming an Iyalawo does not compress one into a certain pattern of behavior
or emotional response. Rather it allows the individual energies of that
individual to express in a profound spiritual manner through the path
they have chosen. The following two essays reflect those differences.
Finding One's
Way To Being An Iyalawo
by Iyalawo Olufadeke
Looking back, it
is appropriate that my initiation ceremony was the most beautiful and
profound experience of my life. Shared with my husband - by my side as
" the Oluwo" - and our eight year old son as my sweet support. I was also
surrounded by the care and love of our shared 23 year old son and two
other wonderful Babalawos. Their love and blessings reflected the memories
of all the times I had blessed them in my previous role as Ogun Priestess.
Their willingness to give of their energy in this ceremony of such consequence
- the first female Iyalawo initiated at Ola Olu - I felt was not only
for me, but for Ola Olu as well.
In retrospect, for
the past 10 years I operated somewhat independently from my husband -
I did my Priestess work with great love and joy - and every time I did,
I felt so grateful that Oludumare had blessed me with the gifts of healing
and energy and that Ifa had shown me the path for expressing them.
In our Prayer room,
I had always arranged my Orisa on the left side. Philip's were always
on the right side. Our families Orunmila's occupied the center. Yet, the
next morning after my initiation - in the midst of much cleaning up -
I got the message to put our Orisa next to each other! As I have learned
to listen and do what I hear, I went right in to do the rearrangement.
Our Obatalas now sit side by side, as to our Osuns, etc. The message seemed
quite clear. "We are now a team in a more profound and active way." While
there are parts of the initiation process that involve Odu that I cannot
participate in, I am completely involved with the whole.
After the incredible
energy surge of the ceremonies, the shifting process began. I must say
that this interim stage isn't all that comfortable. Many new layers were
coming up for me to deal with. Some lay at the very core of my existence.
Pieces that were down so deeply - pieces that I needed to address, fix
and integrate in order to become truly whole. They do, and have, come
together. Ifa insists on it and then shows you the way to do it. And,
as I've told all we have ever initiated, a rebalancing takes place, a
shift from what was to who you are to be on this new path.
Finally, I want to
express that this feels like the first time I've really understood myself
to a level I never touched before. I always knew it was there - and had
to be gotten to - I was just afraid to go there. It is also the first
time in my life that I could understand how to truly stand side by side
with a man - as close to being balanced and becoming one as never before.
After 19 years of togetherness it's the first time I am totally sharing
me with him. Maybe more marriages and relationships could work - maybe
more families could be happy together with a quality to their lives they
never dreamed possible. Maybe more children could be truly whole.
That is my/our work
and goal. To make Ola Olu an oasis of personal power and growth. Not simply
for individuals, but for families, children and friends. On my new path
as Iyalawo Olufadeke, I think we can accomplish this.
Blessings...
Iyalawo Olufadeke
Thoughts Of
A Woman In Ifa
by Iyalawo Falomo
I was never more
surprised--though not totally surprised, as when I realized Orunmila wanted
me to be a priestess of Ifa. After several years of devouring Ifa and
Orisa books, I was aware that Iyalawos existed, though not in great numbers.
I had not given much thought to the possibility that Ifa would be my path--at
least not so soon; I had simply envisioned living in harmony with my Osun
energy.
I had received my
Icofa. It contained only two Ikin, as a reflection of the diasporic interpretation.
Nevertheless, my Ita indicated that I would be a "good Godmother and many
would come to Ifa through me." The Babalawo could not tell me exactly
how this was likely to manifest. Six months later circumstances existed
that caused me to seek another Babalawo. I decided to go to Baba Afolabi
Epega, noted Nigerian Babalawo and co-author of The Sacred Ifa Oracle.
Upon seeing my Icofa he laughed, saying that nothing could be done with
only two Ikin; he told me I needed to complete the hand (16 Ikin). I felt
angry that I had paid for what amounted to a gender biased minimization
of Orunmila's powerful energy.
It was two years
later that destiny brought me to Ola Olu. During the time since I had
my hand of Orunmila completed, I began receiving clear energy and a loving
bond between that energy and myself developed. Of additional comfort was
the fact that Iyalawo Olufadeke had recently received her Ifa initiation.
I felt heartened that together we would be able to offer a safe and rational
haven for women to experience the path of Ifa and Orisa without the societal
gender based limitations that are so prevalent.
Following my initiation
I was able to present my sensitivities on the issue of whether I had become
a "female Babalawo" or, as I insisted was the case, had become an Iyalawo.
I felt that using "Babalawo" to include both men and women would negate
the woman's energy because the word Babalawo, by its construction, is
specific to men; (2) use of Iyalawo as a gender specific for women, as
Babalawo is for men, would acknowledge the critical balancing role for
both energies in the practice of Ifa. Babalawo Fagbamila has agreed, and
all women initiated at Ola Olu as Ifa Priests will be known as Iyalawo!
It is my goal, based
on my experiences before and after finding the Ifa Foundation, to learn,
understand and share the wisdom of Ifa consistent with the Foundation's
principles of inclusion and balance.
Blessings...
Iyalawo Falomo |